Blue Christmas.

Blue Christmas.

Good Evening to all and Merry Christmas. I am glad to say that I enjoyed a wonderful Christmas Eve and Christmas Day with some of my family.  This weekend I’ll be visiting the rest of my family. Unfortunately, I received some sad news. A distant relative was shot and killed. Part of my family’s Saturday morning will be to attend the funeral, while I travel to visit a little later on. 

It is very disappointing to hear that someone’s life has been taken, especially around the holiday seasons. Why do we humans hurt one another? What purpose does it serve? What power does it give? What are you gaining from harming another? 

Though I never had a relationship with my distant relative or knew them very well, l feel sorrow in my heart and wish the family my very best. Knowing that someone is no longer with us can be difficult to grasp and will take time to cope.

Though everyday in life, someone’s life is taken or someone has suddenly passed, it’s never easy to deal with. Whether it’s a lost of a family member,  a lost of an old school mate, or a lost of a relative of someone you know. How do you cope with it?

Do get angry and become mad at the world? Do you reach out to help those grieving? Do you just move on and ignore the fact that someone is no longer living?

As I am writing, I realized I have not been a good person. A year or so, someone I was friends with in high school lost a sibling. I found out through my sister since I no longer had any social media accounts at that point in time. I remember telling my sister to send a message basically saying, “I’m sorry for your lost and if you would like to talk here’s my number.” There was never a response and that was okay. Was I wrong for having my sister, send the message?

I understand people grieve in their own way and I’m sure there were many people to help aid through the process. Even still, I attended the vigil to show support and respect, but I was unable to attend the funeral.

A funeral is not a place none of us want to experience. It’s also not a place I want my children to experience. When I was a child, my dad’s youngest sibling had passed away. She was my aunt, an aunt that I did not know. While attending her funeral, there was so much sadness. People mourned everywhere. It was overwhelming and too much to bare. I cried for someone I never met. I cried because I saw the pain and hurt from others all around. That environment full of sorrow and pain is not what a child needs to experience at any age.

I am grateful for my family and love them so. Be sure to wrap your arms around each of your loved ones and hold them tight. Let them know how much they are loved and how grateful you are to have them in your life. I hope you all have a wonderful holiday and keep your loved ones close always and forever.

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