ABOUT ME

ABOUT ME

Meeting Monique

Yup, that’s me! It’s nice to meet you!

Monique is a very shy (introvert) person. I’ve always  been since I was a little girl. I mean I do talk, but just around people I’m completely comfortable with. On the plus side, I am a great listener, so if you ever need to vent I am all ears! Growing up, I spent my days tracing and drawing. I guess you can say I have a thing for art. Photography also came into the play, I had an interest in taking photos. At least, I thought I was a photographer back then. I would go to school with my little boxed camera (you know the disposable one that you needed to take to CVS to have the film developed. . .Yep, that’s the one!) My mom would always take me to have the film developed. Being so anxious, I couldn’t wait to share the photos taken of classmates, friends, plants, the sky, and even the ground. 

Hi there!

Interest Sparked

Growing up, my dad worked in concrete construction. He even had his own small business that was named, Heard It’s Smooth Concrete Construction. Whenever he checked on a job site, my little sister and I tagged along in his white chevy pick-up truck. I loved seeing his job sites, but I hated the travels which were most of the time long. For me, it was always such a thrill to see his work, whether it was of a parking garage or the start of a basement for a future home. As we drove around, he would always point out to my sister and I where he completed a job. I may not have known it then, but now I can see how proud he was of his accomplishments.

Blacktop poured by my dad and crew!

Living back  off the road down a slightly long graveled path or as I always told friends “we live back in the woods.” What used to be an old dirt graveled road has become a smooth and less bumpy road, thanks to my dad. He poured our concrete driveway, the back patio, and even the sidewalk leading to the front door. I was in awe of how cool it is to do things yourself and be your own boss. As you can see in the picture below the front sidewalk is a mixture of rocks incorporated with the stepping stones that were there before. 

Oh, we’re off to see the wizard. . .

Why Blog?

Blogging is a new factor in my life. One, I never thought of doing until I remembered I used to have a wordpress account in my early 20’s for another purpose. Then I thought, “Hey! Why not give blogging a try?” Seeing other talented moms of many get it done and excel with their blog motivated me to begin my own blog journey. Though it is not an easy venture, it has been a fun and engaging learning experience.

Personally, the loneliness you may have by being a stay at home parent. If you’re anything like me, a mom who moved away from your family because of your fiance job or lost contact with old friends, then you understand how lonely it can be at times. I thought of using my blog as a personal outlet to express feelings and emotions, but then again who wants to read about my feelings, lol. Though, I do hope to share my artwork, home decor, mini crafts, woodwork, and little home projects with you.

Farmhouse Unique

Originally, I wanted to name my site “Home with Monique,” simply because my time is spent mostly at home with my youngest. Unfortunately, someone already had the name on twitter. So being quick on my toes, I created the name “Farmhouse Unique” with the slogan “Home with Monique.” Farmhouse Unique was created based on the fact that I love farmhouse styles. A little bit of rustic charm and the inspiration from Joanna Gaines had me sold and in love. Who knew shiplap was a thing? Not I, but I love it! It is quite beautiful and I would love to incorporate it into my home one day. As we all know “you must start somewhere and work your way up!”

Ideal Home

On this journey, I will slowly, but surely transition my home into my ideal farmhouse dream home. Though, I fear my ideal dream home won’t fully be displayed in our current home for multiple reasons, I will do my absolute best to achieve the possible.

My ideal home is a one floor ranch style with a beautiful front porch. The front porch would include wooden cedar post, shutters, and frontdoor. I love the look of cedar wood! The cedar look would be accompanied by a navy blue painted stucco, brick, or siding with white, but this is just option 1. Option 2 still includes the cedar wood, but the home would be painted white or  cream. There would be large front windows. Upon entering the home, the foyer would be roomy and open with built-ins for storage and sliding barn doors. Walls of shiplap. On the opposite wall there will be a beautiful farmhouse console with decorative items. A gorgeous open concept living area with a gorgeous mantled fireplace. A large spacious kitchen with a grand island with all the bells and whistles including my farmhouse sink I dream of having. A bright sunroom that could also be my art space. An office space with tons of built-ins for books. The children’s playroom that would also act as their livingspace. A warm cozy master bedroom with a spectacular view of nature’s finest. Omg! The master bath will have my freestanding tub (my ultimate desire) or a claw foot tub would go nicely too. Of course, double vanities will be preferred. Don’t forget the walk-in closet with built-in shelving units and drawers. Oh, and the closet’s secret compartment! To sum it all up, 5 bedrooms with 3 and a half bath. Perfect lighting throughout the home would be lovely! Omg, herringbone pattern is a must either the flooring or with the backsplash in the kitchen and bath. I simply adore it! The gracious green lawn with a beautiful landscape. 

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Okay! Stop Dreaming and Wake-up to Reality. . .

Sighs! Yeah, that’s definitely not happening with this home, but hey it’s okay to dream. This home may lack the space that’s required to build my ideal home, but it does offer minimal projects I can tackle just to make it a little more homey and a little more farmy. Decor is always a game changer and my go-to to improve our family’s home. Now you know more about me, feel free to drop a comment below and share a little about you. Thanks for meeting Monique!

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How I Failed at Co-sleeping with my Kiddos!

How I Failed at Co-sleeping with my Kiddos!

Have you ever fallen asleep unaware, with your infant still in your arms? 

Most of us moms are guilty of doing so. As a new mom, you are exhausted and overwhelmed. Hey, it happens to the best of us. Though, doctors warn us of the risk of sleeping with your infant arms, as well as in bed with you. These risks include: SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome), suffocation, strangulations, and other death related illnesses. 

For safe guidelines from the AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) click here. They offer safe guidelines of how to co-sleep, and what to do if you feel yourself falling asleep with your baby.  

From the moment my first born came into this world it was the most breathtaking (both beautiful and exhausting). As every mother knows it takes time to adjust to your newborns’ wild and crazy schedule. It can be overwhelming for the first couple of weeks of your baby’s precious life. I will admit, I am one of those mothers who have drifted off to sleep while still holding my child unknowingly and knowingly. 

This is our current night and day.

Does that make me a bad mother? No, I’m human just like you. I make choices (don’t we all.) Yes, I’ve chosen to fall asleep with my kiddos still wrapped in my arms, just as well as I’ve chosen to have each of my kiddos, sleep with me. Just like I’ve chose to have them sleep on their bellies. 

Yes, I knew the risk. Yes, I’ve heard of mothers losing their child because of this. About 3,500 babies per year have died because of this action. I’d craved sleep and just wanted my kiddos to sleep too. Is that selfish of me? 

I remember when I fell asleep in the hospital the night of the day my first daughter was born with her still in my arms. A nurse walked into the room to do her usual routine check. She advised me not to fall asleep with my daughter in my arms because we wouldn’t want anything to happen. She may fall and so on. She suggested laying her down. “If you need a break, I can take her to the baby care unit,” she said.  As a new mom I didn’t want my baby to leave my side, so I kept her and followed the nurse’s advice the rest of my stay.

Mommy and me time!

After continuously putting my child in his/her bassinet just to have them wake up soon after was frustrating. Believe me, I tried swaddling and ended up with the same result. Before leaving the hospital, I had nurses demonstrate how to swaddle my baby. I even referred to the internet for further instructions, just to ensure I was doing it the correct way. No matter how tight I wrapped the blanket, my kids were not comfortable. 

As they wiggled and made little sounds letting me know that they were about to wake. With the lack of sleep, sometimes I could not resist drifting off to sleep with them in arm. When I  awoke, I would feel some regret, but still relieved that my babies were fine. 

As a new mom for the first, second, third or umpteen time you are tired and restless and just want to catch up on sleep. Babies need attentive care from changing diapers and feeding them to entertaining and comforting them. So yes, you guessed it. . . babies require a lot of your time. 

There have been plenty of times I’ve fallen asleep with my kids on my lying on my chest because of exhaustion or lack of sleep.

How do I stop falling asleep with my child on my chest? 

Well, I’d decided to lay my child on their bellies. At night I’ve noticed that my kiddos slept better and longer on their bellies. Aware of the risk and the fact, doctors recommend that infants should sleep on their backs. Atleast, until they’re able to roll over successfully on their own. 

My first born sleeping on her belly.

I always monitor my child as they slept. Any little sound or slight movement had me alert of my child safety. Since I’m a light sleeper (I get it from my momma,) I feel that’s why I was literally okay and believed that my child would be safe sleeping with me. Anytime, my kiddos moved, I’m up! Anytime, my mister moved and had his arm covering the kids, I moved his arm. Cover over head, moved it. Yes, it happened once I admit. It’s scary, but I made sure it would not happen again. Having our kiddos sleep with us (well me mostly. . . the mister decided to sleep on the couch at times,) was a relief. It’s what worked for our family. 

IMPORTANT

I am not a doctor. This is not advice for you to follow. I just wanted to share my experiences with what worked for me and my family. Just because it worked for me, doesn’t mean it’ll work for you. Every situation is different. As a precaution, it is safer for you and your child to co-sleep in the same room, but separate from your bed. So many have lost their child because of this. 

I am so thankful that nothing terribly bad ever happened. Always be safe and do what’s best for you and your child. Listen and talk to your child doctors if you have any issues getting your child to sleep. Has this been an issue for you? If so, how did you fix it? I would love to hear from you.

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Christmas with No Tree!

Christmas with No Tree!

How do you have Christmas without a tree? 

As I mentioned before in Christmas Decor Home Tour , our faux snowed Christmas tree mysteriously got destroyed while in storage. It sucks because I really loved that tree and we only had it for 2 years. Now with the holiday season in full affect, trees can be expensive.  

So What Now?

The mister and I are contemplating on getting a real Christmas tree this year (sap and all), and then after the holiday season purchase another faux tree when they’re much cheaper.  

While that thoughtful solution is still simmering. I came up with another solution. A corner wall Christmas tree made with lights! Haha! It’s truly something new since I had no idea what to do with these extra lights. So, I thought of hanging the lights on the wall.

Materials needed:

  • Christmas Lights 
  • Command strips light hanging clips for outside

To get started, I eyed the layout of the Christmas tree as I placed the command strips on each side of the wall.

Just peel and stick!

Note: To make it easier, use painter’s tape to layout the christmas shape tree before adding the command strips .

After completing that process, I then hook the lights from left to right.

Corner wall Christmas Light Tree

It may or may not be temporary, but it works! It’s beautiful and the kiddos loved it!

To help bring Christmas in for the girls, I purchased two small trees from Target so they can decorate and call their own. Each tree cost $3. The Christmas bulbs cost about$3 from 5 below.and the string of garland with bells cost $1 from The Dollar Tree.

Thank you for taking this Christmas tree journey with us. Happy Holidays and safe shopping!